Divorce And Spousal Retaliatory Actions

One day, my friend's wife who had been quarreling and fighting with her husband, came to my house. She came at an odd time. Not only that, instead of waiting for me at the sittig room, she walked straight into my bedroom. She did not even knock before entering the house. I was exceedingly shocked and annoyed too with her because she obviously wanted to make me her husband"s enemy. I quickly pushed her out of the bedroom to the sitting room. From there, I told her to leave my house, and never to return again except in the company of her husband, my friend. As she was leaving, she turned back to me and said in a low tone, "Your friend is also committing adultery against me.So I must do it against him in return." There was one small contract that her husband and myself jointly applied for in one Federal Ministry in the Abuja Capital Territory. It was in her paroxysm of fury that she revealed to me that her husband circumvented me and took the job for himself alone. At that point, I became cold for hearimg that. But, I pretended as if it meant nothing to me, whereas it did. Following this information, I made an inquiry into the contract matter and discovered to my surprise that what she told me was true. Her husband was almost on the verge of completing the job when the information came to me. It means that her visit to me was a vendetta. From that day, I did not go back to them again. Her husband came to me to ask why I stopped coming to their house. I told him that I had decided to keep aloof from them. As she was going from man to man in her adulterous escapades to avenge her husband's infidelity and deception to her, she quickly contacted HIV/ AIDS and died. Some people who knew very well that I was their friend told me that she died of HIV/ AIDS infection. Spousal retaliatory actions (SRA) is an evil behavoiur among husbands and wives. It begins gradually in the homes, and before one knows it, it will expand like yeast used for baking of bread. Spousal retaliatory action begins like a little quarrel between man and woman which claim that they love each other till death separates them. Offensive actions against partners which are not confessed of and pardoned will accumulate and grow from the size of a mustard or acorn seed to the height of Mount Everest and spill over it. From there, one partner begins to consider a way out of the problem. Unfriendly friends everywhere at the markets, offices, schools, drinking joints, hair dressing saloons, and residential places and others, will begin to tell them to go for divorce. Lack of forgiveness among married partners leads to divorce. It also leads to spousal retaliatory actions of unimaginable magnitudes, appearances, and facets. Enmity between husbands and wives can go deeper beyond that of Israel and Palestine! In such cases, one kills the other. Most times, it is the women that kill their husbands. They kill them to inherit their wealth and assets. This fact is not subject to argument or equivocation! In many cases, wealthy and influential men suffer and regret marriage relationships more than the poor. Those men who are wealthy and highly influential are afraid of their wives directly or indirectly. Why? They are careful not to offend their wives. If they offend their wives, they may be used by their political opponents and other rivals. It is very common to find wealthy and influential men who fear to eat food cooked by their wives. They know that their wives can poison their food! Some women are in a hurry to take over, capture and annex their husband's business empire. If the wealthy and influential husband is a politician, the wife may not need to kill him because she won't be able to replace him. But, if the man is a business mogul who has built a formidable business empire, his wife can kill him to head his business empire, not minding whether she fails or succeeds in her bid. I know one wealthy man who later contested for gubernatorial election and won. He was a State Governor in Niveria for two tenures (eight years). He was so wealthy that he had manufacturing plants outside Nigeria. He did not eat his wife's food. His cook was a young man whom he built a duplex for in the cook's village. He also married a wife for the cook. All these things were done to make the young man never to give in to any carrot that anybody may dangle before him to take his life. I also know one other man who had wealth and investments. He has many petrol stations. He headed a Federal Government Ministry which generates much revenues. He told me personally that he had not eaten his wife's food for over 25 years from that time, not even today. He has many big houses. He left the family house and built another one where he lives now since all his children are on their own. It is as bad as that! Not every marriage is borne out of love and mutual understanding. Many marriages are battles. If the man is not very careful, the wife will kill him! Some partners can even go beyond divorce to perpetrate evil to their children all in the name of revenge against what their partners did to them. Why do people always forget the characterics and imperfection of the human nature in a hurry? If you divorcé letter A to marry B, did you not still marry one of 26 English Language alphabets? If you divorce one man and gets married to another, you are still living with a man. The second one may even be worse than the first though shame won't allow you to tell anyone about it. Some women marry six times; that is, they are looking for a perfect man as husband. There is never anything like good husband or good wife, not to talk of perfect ones. If you are looking for a perfect husband, you can only find them at the mortuaries! The people in the mortuaries are the only ones who cannot offend and make mistakes. So, you should better manage your partner at least for the sake of your child or children. If you divorce yuor partner just because you can do it, your child or children won't forgive you easily because your action will force him or them to roam the streets or join bad children from broken homes like theirs. Your action will compel them to join other children from broken homes. There are men also which don't show patience and tolerance to their wives. There's nothing their wives do that can please them. They are simply implacable to the core. Do you know that it is not only when you kill someone physically, that you become a killer? If you live together with some people, you will never be a free human being. They will give you so many laws in the houses to obey and abide by. By so doing, you succeed in making a fellow human being like you to be in bondage Just because that man or woman accepted to marry you, you keep him/ her under perpetual captivity. As a result, the person in bondage of husband or bondage of wife will begin to seek for liberation. Le Chatelier's principle said,"When a system which is in equilibrium is subjected to a stress, that system tends to adjust itself so as to relieve that stress, where the stress is temperature or pressure conditions.' You do not need much knowledge of Chemistry to understand what the alchemist was saying here. The meaning of this chemical law in general life is that when there is a stress in the lives of people, they will look for means of alleviating or totally removing the stressor. It means that where there is oppression, there is an agitation. The owl cries out once it sees a puma! The stressor in Chemistry is temperature and pressure conditions. But in this context, it is the husband or wife who is constantly afflicting his/ her partner. Why do partners file divorce suits? Is it not because their partners are stressing them? That does not mean, however, that all divorce suits are good and justified. Having said that, there are glaringly cases whereby some partners try as much as possible to stay together with their partners but in futility. In such cases where the partner wants to leave you after much sincere pleadings, you do not have much to do again. Let the person go in peace! Do not allow the misunderstanding or quarrel between you and your partner to degenerate to the lowest ebb, where you begin to consider separation or even filicide (killing one's own child or children) in order to take revenge or punish your partner. There are partners who resort to filicide to punish their partners. I know one man who killed his children in order to hollow out the heart of his wife. Others resort to divorce to avoid the stressor. Others file for divorce suits so that they can be given part of their husband's money in the name of alimony, or maintenance or support money. Many marriages are fake right from inception. The woman did not marry the man because she loves him and vice versa. They only got married because they saw others who did so. Or, they believe that everybody must get married. The more people live in the world, the more marriage values drop. It means nothing to most people today. It has long lost its sanctity and beauty. In future, most people in the world will not marry!