Do You Truly Know Your Maid?

All parents are advised to be having intimate discussions with their children. The easiest way of destroying a child is to far be from him/ her. Children hardly spoil when parents are near to them, instructing them on the right paths to follow. Parents should have private discussion with each child once in a while. This private discussion should not involve parents and children together in the sitting room or bedroom. There is an information which a child cannot reveal to parent (s) in the presence of his/ her siblings. What I mean is that either father or mother should occasionally take one child out of their residence to another place, preferably an eatery or amusement park or any quiet place, and open an intimate discussion with the child. Buy snacks, soft drink, and chicken parts, or anything that you can afford, for that child. This time, don't shout or show anger to the child. Come down from your high horse and pretend as if you are the child's playmate. Don't talk about his/ her misbehaviours or faults here. Now, you begin by asking him/ her questions about himself/ herself. You can say to the child,"Janet, how is your body?" Are you feeling fine?" Ask questions about the child's education. From there, you ask questions about his/ her siblings. You can say, "I feel very happy that your brother Samuel scored the highest mark in Physics in the whole class!" Then, ask questions about what they do in the house in your absence. If there is a maid living with you, it should come last. Permit me to share this story with you. I had one maid living in my house. Outwardly, she looked very beautiful and calm. One day in 2017, I took my daughter to a far place. There, I ordered for snacks and bottle of coke for her. When she finished eating, I sat closely with her, and opened an intimate talk with her. I told her that I wanted both of us to discuss privately the way we had not done in the past. Gradually, as we went into the discussion, I asked her questions about the behaviours and conducts of the maid in my absence. I made a vehement promise to her that I won't beat her or talk about it to the hearing of anybody if only she tells me nothing but the truth about the maid who lived us. Initially, I discovered that she was not willing to tell me but was scared should the maid discover that she did. She had begun to give untold allegiance to the maid who now made her believe that she loved her more than her parents. Then, she said to me: 1. The maid used to fold or wrap paper in the shape of cigarettes and smoke in the house in our absence. She also used to give my daughter to smoke. And, she did! I became very weak and nearly wept when I heard it. 2. The maid heed to constantly sleep on my bed in my absence. 3. She used to regularly steal meat from the pot of soup. She used to give my child. In all these cases, she sternly warned my daughter not to divulge any information to human being living in this world. My daughter told me that the maid repeatedly told her that she loved her more than her parents and could do anything for her. Think of it! How can a maid love a child more than her biological parents? Can you see what maids can do to children in the absence of their parents? What do you think shall be tbe fate of several millions of children across the world under the care of maids? Their parents leave their houses very early every morning around 5am for office works and personal entrepreneurial engagements and return home in the evening around 6-pm. Who knows the enormity of evil practices their maids have taught their children? Those children whom you hand over to maids and caregivers are in danger of being brought up according to the lifestyles of your maids. What a person has is what he gives. Don't you think that those who develop or train children should first be trained and developed? Every other trainer in all aspects of human endeavours are compulsorily trained before being certified to train other persons. But, unfortunately, it is not so with people who give child development services. In some cases, babysitters kill the children physically. Maids and nannies damage the moral behaviours of children who are entrusted to them or kept under their cares. The provisions of food, accomodation and money for education for the children by parents are highly commendable; but should not substitute for the place of moral upbringing by parents themselves and those people whom they appoint to take care of the children. Consequently, the next morning, I gave my wife enough money to go to the market and buy clothes which she can wear for two years because we knew her parents' financial position. Just before this time, she was about to write her Common Entrance Examination in the private school that she was attending. We bought her a box, clothes, and shoes; and told her that she was leaving us the next morning to return to her parents. She wept so much and pleaded with me that I should not send her home. I would have readily forgiven her but for the smoking habit which she wanted to teach my child. I pitied her of a truth but could not rescind my decision for her departure. On getting home to her parents, my wife told them what she did. Immediately, both her father and mother started to beat her up in my wife's presence, especially when they saw the size and quality of things that we bought for her, not minding that we were parting ways with her. In summary, when you appoint anybody to do any job for you, no matter the nature of the work, keep your eyes on him/ her to know if what he/ she is doing is profitable to you or not. Please, share with your friends and loved ones.