Of Divorce And Spousal Retaliatory Actions

Divorce is among tbe impacts of poor parenting. It is one of the greatest weapons that Satan uses to fight against mankind. He does not want husband and wife to live together in peace and harmony and raise morally-inclined children under the umbrella of God. He wants to see all the family members either dead, or sick, or poor, or hungry or dumped in prison without any possibility of parole in sight, or living separately in anguish. Divorce is not rampant in some families wheras it is a tradition in several others. In this dispensation, divorce is no more a taboo or social stigma as it was in ages gone by. Infallible records have emphatically proved beyond all reasonable doubts that 80% of divorces are traceable to unfaithfulness of married couples to one another. The remaining 20% of divorce is caused by financial incapability of the husbands and otber factors. Yet, unexpectedly, after divorces, they (women) will go all out in full force dating married men; while the divorced men will engage in illegal affairs with married women. Their targets are mostly men and women in marriage. They do not divorce to stay alone without the opposite gender. While filing the divorce suit, both husband and wife have it at the back of their minds that they are going to have illegal sexual affairs with husbands and wives in marriage. It is not as if they can abstain from sex. They divore to do stupid things. Their own marriages were broken into shreds because they were unable to understand themselves and save their homes. After the divorce, they actively engage in breaking other people's homes as if they derive any benefit or advantage from it. They want others to be like them. They bluntly rejected all advices given them by family members, friends, wellwishers and attorneys and pressed forward for separation, not minding the pleadings of their children to continue staying together for their sakes. The percentage of married couples which have not engaged into adultery against their partners since the inception of their marriages till today is not up to 5%, globally. Wives do not respect their husbands any longer. Their opinion is that their husbands are not superior to them because they all are educated and earn monthly salaries for the upkeep of their families. In fact, the situation becomes more difficult if the woman is more educated than the husband and also earns more salary than him. However, there are exceptions to this rules! All women are not the same. Yes. But the full-orbed truth is that most women of this age do not have any iota of interest or readiness to live under husbands! They want to be alone so that they can do any stupid thing they want to do without anybody raising an eyebrow. They want to be single parents. But, behind the curtains, they are not single! Diivorce or separation between husbands and wives begins with the deceptive information the partners hear at the drinkig joints and hair dressing saloons. If the man is the foolish type, his friends will lie to him that they give their wives very little money for food, whereas they spend more than the man they are misleading. The foolish man will believe them because he does not have discerning heart to know that their aim is to break up his marriage and send his children to the streets. He cannot differentiate between maize and guineacorn. If he sees chalk, he will call it cheese, and vice versa. He can't reason well! How can you foolishly believe your friend you tells you that he doesn't give his wife big money for feeding in the house? Don't you know that if he doesn't give his wife enough money for the family upkeep that the woman will leave him or do something very stupid to him? Some men tell their friends that they use their wives as punching bags at home while in the actual sense of it, it is their wives that are beating them to a pulb, and infact, without any provocation in the least. Don't you know that friends are the closest enemies? William Shakespeare said, "The nearer, the bloodier." Don't allow anybody, not even your father, mother, or employer or pastor to break your marriage. If you do, you will regret it. The wives themselves cause more prolems to marriage than husbands. When a couple files a divorce suit, it is the women which consistently go to the attorneys to persuade them to break up the marriages. In the courtroom when they are given chances to talk, the women will shamelessly vomit everything to the hearing of the public. Some private actions between them are all divulged by women. They are not ashamed at all. In many cases, the lawyers will be annoyed with the women for talking too much and revealing some dirty things to the court. What most men cannot ever say before any man, women will say them with pride and alacrity n the courtroom. How does the urge for divorce begin? The Bible said that evil communication corrupts good manners. Those women that your wife interacts with at the markets, offices, schools, residential places and particularly hair dressing saloons are the deadly worms that eat up the fabrics of your marriage. Why? Always understand that when people meet,they exchange banters, and from there other discussions will follow suit. People came from different places and backgrounds. They do not think alike. They do not behave alike. They do not dress alike etc. And everyone, even the most foolish and unlearned man, does not know that he knows nothing. That was why Socrates said that he always believed that he knew nothing. Intelligent people do not always talk too . much. Now, those people whom your wife mingles with, will begin to ask her questions about you unbeknownst to you. When people talk to you, they want to change you. They want you to be like them hook, line and sinker. They only thing they won't give you is good advice. They may give your wife some money to make her believe that they love her so much. After entering into her heart, they will begin to rule your family from their own houses. From there, your wife will begin to disrespect you. If you ask her any simple question, she will answer you beliigerently. She will tell you that the money you are giving her for feeding is very small. Her friends in the hair dressing saloon have told her what to do to you. They will lie to her that their own husbands give them very big money daily for feeding. They will tell your wife that you are keeping another woman somewhere. They will tell her to look for a rich man outside to befriend, afterall, she is beautiful and young. The surging trend of unfaithfilness among married partners is better imagined than told. The ascendancy is so unspeakable such that even if you close your eyes so that you would not see it, you will still see it. If you close your ears in order not to hear of it, you will still hear of it. I want to give you few examples here. One, there was a woman who got married to one rich man. She had seven children in that man's house. After many years of that marriage, the woman became very ill. The husband and her children took her to many hospitals for treatment. Unfortunately, she was not cured. They took her to one place for prayer. The man told the sick woman that what she needed to do to receive total healing was only to confess her sin to her husband. She refused. She said that she was an innocent person, and does not understand the meaning of sin confession to her husband. So, the man in the prayer house told her that if she fails to confess her evil activities before her husband, that she must die. Both her husband and her seven children were annoyed with her for delaying to make the required confessions. There and then, she said that apart from the third child, who was about 30 years old, the remaining six children were from six different fathers. In other words, her husband was only responsible for the pregnancy of the third child only out of seven children. The other six children, boys and girls, had six diverse paternities! Upon hearing this from her mouth, all her children and husband wept uncontrollably. Her husband drove out of the place with great fury, abandoning her and the children, except the third one. Her children nearly lynched her not minding her critical health situation. Each of them openly asked her questions about his/ her paternity. It was a very great drama imdeed! It has been widely observed that many husbands and wives engage into adultery as spousal retaliatory measures to their partners' infidelity against them. For example, a former Nigerian Television Authority (NTA) staff told me confidentially many years ago, that she delved into adultery because her husband was also doing it against her. I was shocked because if not that she opened her mouth to say it, I would not have thought or believed that she could do such a thing. Marcus Aurelius asked this question," Because other people are fools, must you be so too?" I blamed her for her wrong actions. There was also a woman whose husband was my friend in Lagos. She was a banker. Their marriage relatipnship was not good right from inception. I said this because they fought seven days after wedding. What was the cause of the fight? The woman told me that my friend, her husband, lied to her that he was a lawyer while he was not. Secondly, she told me that my friend lied that he had some lands somewhere that he had not yet developed. So, after the wedding, none of those things her husband told was true. I personally did not like the idea of lying to a woman in order to get her nod for marriage. Their quarreling and fighting became very unbearable. In some cases, they fought in the midnight and in all cases, she will cry and come to my house. That means, I would compulsorily have to take her back to her husband and then return to my house. Anytime their families judged their matters, both of them would end up calling me as a witness. They knew too well that I did not support any party in favour of the other. To be continied... Kindly share with your friends and wellwishers, please.