Most Parents Do Not Tell Truth About Their Children

 A whole lot of parents across many cultures do not tell the truth about their child or children. This wrong attitude is often driven by a mix of emotions, societal pressures, and misconceived notions of love and protection. Many parents tend to cover up their child's or children's evil actions and shortcomings, which can have far-reaching consequences, affecting not only the child's or children's immediate development, but also their long-term growth, relationships, and overall well-being. 

Parents cover up their child's or children's wrong actions for a variety of reasons, often stemming from a desire to protect their child or children from perceived harm or danger, criticism, disappointment, and social stigma. Some of the common reasons adduced to it include fear of judgment and criticism, protection from consequences, sense of shame or embarrassment, misconceived notion of love and protection, and pressure or propensity to present a perfect family image. For example, parents may fear that revealing their child's or children's wrong actions may dent their family image, leading to judgment, criticism, a negative labeling by others, including family members, teachers, or peers. Is it a right attitude to cover up child's or children's bad behaviours? Would there be a room in future to correct a child's or children's bad behaviours which are covered up by their parents today? It cannot be possible!

When parents cover up their child's or children's wrong doings, it can have several negative impacts on the child's or children's short-term development. Children may not learn to take responsibility for their actions, as they are not held accountable for their wrong actions. They may develop an unrealistic and inflated sense of self, as they are confronted with with their evil deeds and shortcomings. Additionally, children may not be able to develop problem-solving skills, as parents often intervene and resolve issues on their behalf. This can automatically pave way for an unnecessary entitlement mentality, expecting others to take responsibility for their own actions, cater to their needs, and forgive their offences and wrong actions without consequences. Nothing kills a child or children like blindly shielding him/ her or them from the consequences or corollary of their actions. The more indulgent parents protect their child or children from the consequences of their actions, the less the child or children come to the understanding of the grim truth of the principles of cause and effect. A child should be taught by a parent right from cradle that every action has a consequence. Stop lying to children that everything is alright. Tell them to prepare to fight for survival in future. If not, they will end up as liabilities. 

The consequences of covering up child's or children's wrong actions are better imagined than told. It can be even more severe in the long-term than in the short-term. When helicopter parents fail to expose the evil actions of their child or children, and make sure that he/ she or they are responsible for their bad actions, they are simply preparing them to plunge into the iceberg in future. Children whose bad behaviours are covered up by their weak parents do not end up well. Neither do they have needed qualities or virtues and paraphernalia to rise to the top of the world. Why? It is because children who were not taught to acknowledge their bad behaviours and learn from their past mistakes may permanently struggle with forming and maintaining healthy relationships. They do not develop empathy, accountability, transparency, and conflict resolution skills. They do not possess problem-solving and critical thinking and reasoning skills. They are empty in their heads. They are the products of helicopter parenting. 

Their parents made them gods and goddesses. They are the untouchables who cannot distinguish between wheat and guinea corn. In their eyes of understanding, the chalk and cheese are the same. They were raised like kings and queens, which obviously they are not. They did not develop resilience, making it difficult for them to cope with adversity, failure, or disappointment in future. They were not raised to prepare to meet challenges in the future. Their indulgent fathers and mothers taught them that life is a bed of roses. They were deceived by their own parents. They cannot be corrected, even when they are wrong. They defy the principles of inclusivity too. They are self-willed, self-opinionated, and never found outside their comfort zones. 

Furthermore, when children are not told the truth, and their evil deeds are covered up by their parents, there is every likelihood that they would not be able to manage their emotions and behaviours. They struggle with emotional regulation, leading to issues with anxiety, depression, or aggression. It is a paradox that when parents build their houses, they build them on solid foundations. In contrast, when they build their children, they carelessly build on collapsible quicksand. That is anathema! To promote healthy development and growth in their children, parents need to adopt a more constructive and honest approach. They should acknowledge and accept their children's evil deeds, and teach them to avoid them. Parents should encourage a growth mindset, emphasizing that wrong actions and failures are essential components of learning and development. They should hold erring children accountable for their misdeeds, teaching them to take responsibility for their actions, and make amends when necessary. Parents themselves should also first model good and healthy behaviours, demonstrating how to acknowledge and learn from wrong actions and mistakes, and how to take responsibility for one's actions. Moreover, parents should seek support and guidance from professionals, such as therapists or counselors, if they struggle with addressing their children's wrong actions and behaviours. By so doing, parents can promote healthy development and growth in their children, and help them develop essential life skills, such as self-awareness, self-reflection, and self-improvement. 

In conclusion, most parents do not tell the truth about their child or children. This is driven by a mix of emotions, societal pressures, and misconceived notions of love and protection from danger. However, covering up children's evil deeds can have severe consequences, affecting both their short-term and long-term development, relationships, and overall well-being. By acknowledging and accepting wrong actions, fostering a growth mindset, encouraging accountability, modeling healthy behaviours, and seeking support and guidance, parents can correct their attitudes of helicopter parenting approaches, and promote healthy development and growth in their children. It is essential for parents to recognize that honesty, accountability, and constructive feedback, are essential components of love, support, and guidance, and that they play a critical role in shaping the future of their children. 

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