53 Impacts of Poor Parenting On the Collapsing Global Society

It is the responsibilities of parents, caregivers and teachers to inculcate morals, values, ideals, etiquettes, good mannerisms and civic responsibilities into the children. As we all know, nature does not allow a vacuum. If morals,ideals, values, good mannerisms, etiquettes,including other civic trainings, are not imbibed by the children, social vices will surely replace them. Children should be taught how to compare and contrast, and to objectively distinguish between two variable elements. They should be educated on the disparity between intuitive and deductive reasonings: to weigh,assess, dissect, and evaluate everything independently before drawing an inference or conclusion. If children are not taught to reason objectively and independently, they will surely become "Yes men on the board", when they grow into adulthood. Other people will make choices and decisions for them. Tell your children not to believe and quickly act on everything their peers tell them at schools or elsewhere. Insist on and encourage them to share their daily experiences with you. If you fail to do this, they will be misled. They will go astray if parents are far from them. They should not believe their peers and play groups hook, line and sinker. Find out what your children like to do most and what they hate doing. Ask them their reasons for loving this one and hating the other. Ask your children to tell you names of their best friends, irrespective of gender. Find out other details about their friends. Find out if their friends' parents are living together or separared. Knowledge of the family history of your child's friend is indispensable. This is because children most times copy their parents' lifestyles. Try as much as possible to make them to flow freely with you. Teach your children sex education at home. If you fail to do it, thinking that it is too early to do so, or that they do not need such knowledge, you have finished yourself and your children. Why? It is because their peers and play groups will surely tell them everything about it, and probably wrongly too. This may endanger the life of your child or children. Search your children's school bags immediately they return from school. Do this in the very first five minutes the child enters the house. If you waste time before doing it, the child would not know how serious you are about the contents of his school bag! If children know that their parents search their school bags immediately they return from school, they will learn not to take anything from school that does not belong to them. For example, there was a day my daughter returned from school with one low quality pencil in her school bag. I knew that that was not the pencil I bought for her. I reminded her that I had strongly warned her not to take anything from anybody at school, not to talk of bringing it home. She apologized for her wrong action. After that, I quickly took her back to her school to return the pencil to the owner. Her teachers were surprised at my action. They said that I should have waited till the next morning when bringing her to school. But, I did not talk to them because I had already achieved my objective to deter her from taking anything from anybody at school. It is pertinent to say here that teachers are no more active in child training because parents have adopted the unwholesome attitude of fighting them for beating their erring children. The Scripture said that if you spare the rod, you spoil the child. The exclusion of teachers' participation in children's moral upbringing has led to a high degree of juvenile delinquency. The global society has gone haywire with atrocities. There is fear everywhere in the world because of the evil activities of children raised by carefree parents. Where did the terrorists come from? Where did the armed robbers come from? Where did the harlots and the hard drug addicts come from? How did they grow to this level of evil? Were they born by parents? Where were their parents and caregivers when they were growing? Yes, they were all born and bred by parents like everyone of us. Yet, they are causing deaths and tears and sorrows to the world. To be continued... t